‘There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time’ - Malcolm X
I have made so many mistakes in my life; some have even been made repeatedly. As an adolescent you were insulated from any serious outcome, as your parents protected you from liabilities.
We often bewail our luck, and curse inanimate objects, systems, universe, companies and institutions when bad things happen. The long and short of it is that rarely we look for that silver lining in every single cloud that storms upon us.
The proverbial silver lining in every painful situation is what is called ‘the lesson’. I am not trying to patronise anyone, but the lesson is sometimes the experience itself. Our natural instincts drive the fight or flight response and our reaction is from the trigger from the issue occurring in the first place.
For example, something happens and then the issue is not the issue, but how we respond to that issue, then it becomes the real issue! The lesson is not learned or even recognised but instead of a solution an additional problem is created.
To the title of my blog, although a Christmas song from the late 1940’s, the title and melody have always resonated with me, however, my interpretation of the song, as it plays in my mind, has always been to suppress my out of control ego.
Whenever, something happens, I do have to check my behaviour, it forces me to learn the lesson. The song is my fight reflex response to negative behaviour; it does remind me that if you fight against the world, the world will win as I am attracting back my own negativity ten-fold. I could always be friendless, jobless or homeless.
As the song intimates, it is cold outside. Swallowing your pride is a fallacy, as the reaction to the problem should not have been created in the first instance.
This is the lesson you should take, as to quote Oscar Wilde ‘Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes’
I have been your Captain for today’s flight, and hope you enjoyed flying with Everest Airways and welcome you again soon.
Tally ho!
PS. Humility is now my strong point, I am VERY experienced
1 comment:
Top notch! It's easy to let the bumps on lifes road hold us back, divert us on to smoother "more travelled" roads or stop the journey altogether.
Hardships - or indeed our own mistakes - are often just life just trying to draw our attention to important lessons we may have otherwise missed. With that in mind, it's worth the effort to pay attention!
Real life doesn't have montage sequences - though I wish it did! Nobody ever said change would be quick or easy. It's unhelpful to pretend to yourself that they did.
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