“The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves” - William Penn
Rose....... A fragile flower, which is notoriously difficult to grow, and requires a lot of attention and maintenance, to look their best at all times.
So what is the topic of today’s blog? Well this topic is vast; and will touch upon the very essence of it; however I do not want this to consume me. It is primarily about the people who look down at you when they have themselves been put up on a pedestal.
There are labels that people are given when they are in the pubescent stage, and one of mine would be the cliché of ‘he will not achieve much’. In reflection it could be said by these same people, that I overachieved.
I do not look at it like that; my view is that I did not reach their low expectations of me. However many people do live up to their assigned monikers of low level roles of criminal, drug addict and benefit scrounger.
This does irk me, and I love reading on facebook and being in contact with friends from my past, who have done the complete opposite, and I am not even shocked to see that achieved what they have, they have not listened to the negativity that was supposed to label them for life.
These ‘people’ that I speak about are what we call ‘The Dream Stealers’ most commonly known as the British civil service, who have an anal obsession of labelling everything.
Everything must be measured (imperial only!); also to allow the possibility that every now and then and to quote Tupac Shakur ‘A rose can grow from concrete’.
However, a rose is fragile as you know and the expert gardener can easily crush this flower. It is unfortunately better known these days, and every past day, as the class system.
The class system! The colonial administrators of the vast Imperial Empire. I have said before that if there is such thing as Heaven or Hell, the British will run the reception desk and you will have to endure countless forms and protocols before entry.
We do enjoy making things difficult, try purchasing a Train Ticket, a meal from Burger King, Coffee, telephone a call centre all of which are met with multiple choice questions and a baffling array of selections.
Now apply the logic to today’s blog, if you are out of the Class system and you seem to have “in their eyes” over achieved and gone above your pre-assigned social status panic and immediate re-labelling is required.
Lol
I do not really believe this for one moment, it is an urban myth that is often perpetrated by the very people who subliminally oppress there selves and others. – The Upper classes are not out to get us!
This can boil down to one pure raw emotion, and that is jealously. A deadly sin that can be summed up quite simply by William Tell in the opening quote,
“The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves”
How true that quote is, and can be kind of a breakthrough moment when you stop to think and absorb it. We allow jealously to eat away at us from both sides, and in some respects we could both be the victims.
Another way to appreciate jealously and its connotations, is to look at the dictionary meaning as below.
Jealous (adjective) unhappy and angry because someone has something or someone you want, or because you think they might take something or someone that you love away from you:
There could even be Freud’s conclusions that all jealous behaviour in Male & Female relationships bore down to latent homosexuality. A thought maybe?
This of course is a complex and emotive subject and without getting into the intricacies of relationships, the key essence of the blog is really about the jealously of success.
Allowing jealously projected towards you to consume you, allows your dreams to be stolen. The behaviour of the projection also results in deep unhappiness for that person.
Successful people are those who are single minded enough to go for their dreams and at every turn, unwaveringly assured that will achieve their desires.
So where are you? Where am I? My path is never straight, and the only person who has control of my guidance system is me.
So the burning question is, “Am I the jealous type?” Personally and emotionally the answer has always been NO. Professionally however, my frustration at times was a symptom of underlying jealously. The key thing is my behaviour has been modified. This does come with experience, and have grown as a person and evolved into a parental figure, kind of like Yoda.
I suspect that when Yoda was a teen, he was out drinking and publically arguing with his girlfriend. The lack of sleep and self loathing may have caused a scene or two.
So in summary, jealously leads to self loathing. Having a victim mentality to jealously will cost you your dreams. I made reference to social labels and the class system, this was merely to demonstrate subconscious jealously of people who have their lives in front of them, only to be judged in those few short seconds and opinions of others whose lives have passed. The sad thing is, they suffered the same fate. The abused always become the abuser.
I will be exploring over the next 6 blogs the seven deadly sins, and to remove my penchant for the dramatic my conclusion is that every sin or vice is the result of a flawed ego.
The control of the ego is the secret behind the secret, the forgotten secret of the hidden secret to the new secret and old secret.
My advice and without ego, is for everyone to live in the six inches in front of their faces by using the best moral compass available. Sometimes this can be helped by religion, spirituality, nature, family or just being.
Finally you never need anybody or anything to complete you, eliminate that need. You are already whole, be part of the collective not the jigsaw.
Thank you
“Sometimes I feel like dancing........................”
Scott
Rose....... A fragile flower, which is notoriously difficult to grow, and requires a lot of attention and maintenance, to look their best at all times.
So what is the topic of today’s blog? Well this topic is vast; and will touch upon the very essence of it; however I do not want this to consume me. It is primarily about the people who look down at you when they have themselves been put up on a pedestal.
There are labels that people are given when they are in the pubescent stage, and one of mine would be the cliché of ‘he will not achieve much’. In reflection it could be said by these same people, that I overachieved.
I do not look at it like that; my view is that I did not reach their low expectations of me. However many people do live up to their assigned monikers of low level roles of criminal, drug addict and benefit scrounger.
This does irk me, and I love reading on facebook and being in contact with friends from my past, who have done the complete opposite, and I am not even shocked to see that achieved what they have, they have not listened to the negativity that was supposed to label them for life.
These ‘people’ that I speak about are what we call ‘The Dream Stealers’ most commonly known as the British civil service, who have an anal obsession of labelling everything.
Everything must be measured (imperial only!); also to allow the possibility that every now and then and to quote Tupac Shakur ‘A rose can grow from concrete’.
However, a rose is fragile as you know and the expert gardener can easily crush this flower. It is unfortunately better known these days, and every past day, as the class system.
The class system! The colonial administrators of the vast Imperial Empire. I have said before that if there is such thing as Heaven or Hell, the British will run the reception desk and you will have to endure countless forms and protocols before entry.
We do enjoy making things difficult, try purchasing a Train Ticket, a meal from Burger King, Coffee, telephone a call centre all of which are met with multiple choice questions and a baffling array of selections.
Now apply the logic to today’s blog, if you are out of the Class system and you seem to have “in their eyes” over achieved and gone above your pre-assigned social status panic and immediate re-labelling is required.
Lol
I do not really believe this for one moment, it is an urban myth that is often perpetrated by the very people who subliminally oppress there selves and others. – The Upper classes are not out to get us!
This can boil down to one pure raw emotion, and that is jealously. A deadly sin that can be summed up quite simply by William Tell in the opening quote,
“The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves”
How true that quote is, and can be kind of a breakthrough moment when you stop to think and absorb it. We allow jealously to eat away at us from both sides, and in some respects we could both be the victims.
Another way to appreciate jealously and its connotations, is to look at the dictionary meaning as below.
Jealous (adjective) unhappy and angry because someone has something or someone you want, or because you think they might take something or someone that you love away from you:
There could even be Freud’s conclusions that all jealous behaviour in Male & Female relationships bore down to latent homosexuality. A thought maybe?
This of course is a complex and emotive subject and without getting into the intricacies of relationships, the key essence of the blog is really about the jealously of success.
Allowing jealously projected towards you to consume you, allows your dreams to be stolen. The behaviour of the projection also results in deep unhappiness for that person.
Successful people are those who are single minded enough to go for their dreams and at every turn, unwaveringly assured that will achieve their desires.
So where are you? Where am I? My path is never straight, and the only person who has control of my guidance system is me.
So the burning question is, “Am I the jealous type?” Personally and emotionally the answer has always been NO. Professionally however, my frustration at times was a symptom of underlying jealously. The key thing is my behaviour has been modified. This does come with experience, and have grown as a person and evolved into a parental figure, kind of like Yoda.
I suspect that when Yoda was a teen, he was out drinking and publically arguing with his girlfriend. The lack of sleep and self loathing may have caused a scene or two.
So in summary, jealously leads to self loathing. Having a victim mentality to jealously will cost you your dreams. I made reference to social labels and the class system, this was merely to demonstrate subconscious jealously of people who have their lives in front of them, only to be judged in those few short seconds and opinions of others whose lives have passed. The sad thing is, they suffered the same fate. The abused always become the abuser.
I will be exploring over the next 6 blogs the seven deadly sins, and to remove my penchant for the dramatic my conclusion is that every sin or vice is the result of a flawed ego.
The control of the ego is the secret behind the secret, the forgotten secret of the hidden secret to the new secret and old secret.
My advice and without ego, is for everyone to live in the six inches in front of their faces by using the best moral compass available. Sometimes this can be helped by religion, spirituality, nature, family or just being.
Finally you never need anybody or anything to complete you, eliminate that need. You are already whole, be part of the collective not the jigsaw.
Thank you
“Sometimes I feel like dancing........................”
Scott
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