‘Use, do not abuse; neither abstinence nor excess ever renders man happy.’- Voltaire
‘A happy family is but an earlier heaven’- George Bernard Shaw
All we need is a stage, dawg! He’s back……………………………..
Every now and then, despite our best efforts, the books we read, the company we keep, we just cannot help but get back into that routine of being unhappy.
The state of unhappy is akin to being an ex-smoker; we never really recover and will always class ourselves as an ex-smoker rather than a non-smoker. This is predominately down to the bigger badge you get for giving up a bad habit, rather than ever starting one.
Now in reflection this is wrong, and just highlights even at our lowest ebb, the ego still rules. Adoption of the victim mentality really does get us some mileage; we judge our self worth by the amount of suffering we have been through. We compare to each other and form a social status with this information.
I am becoming more aware of this. Last week someone phoned me at work and the usual greeting of how are you by the caller, was met by me telling them about how great I am feeling, what my lunch consisted of, even my food intolerances could not stand in the way of the fabulous risotto consumed only an hour before. I then asked them about themselves.
‘Not bad’ came the in-depth reply.
The conversation on a subliminal level had moved on, the caller was not impressed with my cheerfulness, and considered that I took advantage of an insincere salutation.
So moving onwards and upwards, like a flower to the sun we all grow up as one. The subject of this week’s blog is the re-up, in narcotic circles this means to redistribute oneself with more drugs for means of retailing.
However, the metaphor is me re-supplying myself with a shot of happiness and will distribute to all you kind patient readers.
Now my blog’s have been considered lengthy, so my devoted audience, you will be pleased that today and all future writings will not be war and peace, maybe crime and punishment, but certainly not a strain to read.
Happiness to some is like football, it does not matter how much Real Madrid spend on players this year, and their defence will still be subjected of constant mugging off by opposition teams. I feel like this at times, but life is like that. The trick is to let the scores against you go, but using skill, teamwork and dedication the objective is to score more goals that are let in.
So what could we really do about goals, for and against us?
Nothing really, we just have to uncover the joy of happiness. Just like the tortoise and Hare parable, aggressive running and ego caused the hare to sprint off, and the arrogance of ego thought he could rest before the joy and happiness of the Tortoise overtook him.
The following table is the re-up, and will list (non exhaustive) all pleasure things that you can do, Pleasure will always lead to contentment and will ultimately lead to joy
PLEASURE - Happiness of the Body
CONTENTMENT – Happiness of the World
JOY – Happiness of the Spirit
Every now and then, despite our best efforts, the books we read, the company we keep, we just cannot help but get back into that routine of being unhappy.
The state of unhappy is akin to being an ex-smoker; we never really recover and will always class ourselves as an ex-smoker rather than a non-smoker. This is predominately down to the bigger badge you get for giving up a bad habit, rather than ever starting one.
Now in reflection this is wrong, and just highlights even at our lowest ebb, the ego still rules. Adoption of the victim mentality really does get us some mileage; we judge our self worth by the amount of suffering we have been through. We compare to each other and form a social status with this information.
I am becoming more aware of this. Last week someone phoned me at work and the usual greeting of how are you by the caller, was met by me telling them about how great I am feeling, what my lunch consisted of, even my food intolerances could not stand in the way of the fabulous risotto consumed only an hour before. I then asked them about themselves.
‘Not bad’ came the in-depth reply.
The conversation on a subliminal level had moved on, the caller was not impressed with my cheerfulness, and considered that I took advantage of an insincere salutation.
So moving onwards and upwards, like a flower to the sun we all grow up as one. The subject of this week’s blog is the re-up, in narcotic circles this means to redistribute oneself with more drugs for means of retailing.
However, the metaphor is me re-supplying myself with a shot of happiness and will distribute to all you kind patient readers.
Now my blog’s have been considered lengthy, so my devoted audience, you will be pleased that today and all future writings will not be war and peace, maybe crime and punishment, but certainly not a strain to read.
Happiness to some is like football, it does not matter how much Real Madrid spend on players this year, and their defence will still be subjected of constant mugging off by opposition teams. I feel like this at times, but life is like that. The trick is to let the scores against you go, but using skill, teamwork and dedication the objective is to score more goals that are let in.
So what could we really do about goals, for and against us?
Nothing really, we just have to uncover the joy of happiness. Just like the tortoise and Hare parable, aggressive running and ego caused the hare to sprint off, and the arrogance of ego thought he could rest before the joy and happiness of the Tortoise overtook him.
The following table is the re-up, and will list (non exhaustive) all pleasure things that you can do, Pleasure will always lead to contentment and will ultimately lead to joy
PLEASURE - Happiness of the Body
CONTENTMENT – Happiness of the World
JOY – Happiness of the Spirit
Pleasure – Walking in the woods, long baths, sexual gratification (no matter how bizarre), listening to music, cooking, eating, painting, dancing, singing, writing, exercise, pumping iron, beauty therapies, cheese making, wine tasting, being with family, fishing etc……
So how simple is this theory if you keep doing only things that give you pleasure. The quote by Voltaire does stress that not trying anything does lead to unhappiness and happiness cannot be found by doing anything or nothing with excess or abstinence.
The quote at the beginning of the blog by George Bernard Shaw, does stress that one thing can bring you heaven on Earth, and that is family.
I have so much gratitude for my kids and love spending every Monday with my daughter. This has been called Daddy and baby girl time. I am enjoying taking my daughter Lilith to play centres, the zoo, the beach, swimming and for food. Who knows this could get me a better retirement home when I am old.
; )
So to finish, my new stream line blog hopefully has delivered. In summary be a friend to yourself and fill your head and subject your body to and with pleasure. This will in turn fill your heart and soul with contentment and joy.
Finally, some wise words from Kurt…………………..
‘I'm so happy because today I found my friends - they're in my head’ - Kurt Cobain
See you again
Scott xxxxx
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