Five Star Apology and Validation Experiment

“And I felt sorry, and I have felt bad about what happened”. - Monica Lewinsky

Something occurred to me today, that it was 20 years ago that one of the most shameful episodes of my life transpired.

It was April 1989, I was 14 years of age and of course, was a bit of, let’s say a clichéd teenager.

My sister (who was 10) and I were watching Saturday morning television and enjoying Going Live, when to my horror Five Star was appearing in the phone in live. Now why was this to my horror? At the time Five Star, were my sister’s favourite band and proved to be quite annoying to a pubescent teenager.

A bit of history, or even some recognition of my plight with other older siblings, my sister, if she liked something her main tribute to it was to watch it daily (repeatedly , we are talking Grease 1 & 2, Dirty Dancing or Care Bears the Movie! I have lost count of the times when I have been subjected to such things and still very emotionally scarred. (Will EFT this later)

However back to the story, I thought that this is an opportunity to get back at my sister for my torment and then to transfer my anger towards Five Star, the proverbial two birds one stone jobbies.

I dialled the number; then to my amazement go through and was put on the spot and was asked my name and where I was from. The where I was from part is something that I do not recall saying, but my name was derived from the boy from ET (Eliot) and Dexter (Fletcher) from press gang. (I am amused every time one of his films comes on TV)

I put on a young accent for the phone in on the show so that everything would appear normal and the moment came and was put through.

I urge you all to click the link as it is immortalised on you tube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jg_s6aOp23M

I did panic for a bit, my sister ran upstairs crying and threatened to tell Mother, and thought that the police were coming to get me. My Mum was working so I was at the time the responsible person in the house looking after my sister Stacey and my 5 year old brother Dean, who just used to talk and play with himself all day, so was not much trouble.

The point at the time was of course to take pleasure in abusing someone, and some kind of sibling revenge on my sister but in all honesty I did not feel good after it at all.

I have regaled this story across the land and revelled in the legendary status that it afforded me within my peer group. So when this behaviour is validated by your friends what do you do next? Yep you carry on that behaviour because you think it is acceptable.

I have touched on this subject before in a previous blog and my journey to my success but now of course, is my apology.

Dear Denise, Doris, Lorraine, Stedman and Delroy (Five Star)

I “Scott Everest” apologises and am deeply sorry for my behaviour, the opportunity to be on “Going live” was to promote yourselves to a young audience and to entertain and brighten your fans lives.

This was ruined by me, because of my juvenile behaviour and in retrospect there is nothing that can change what has happened.

However in your honour and to preserve your legacy there is an experiment that will be carried out in your name. This is called the Five Star Validations.

I and others who want to heel negative relationships will validate Five things about them and to demonstrate how we feel and the positive things we see about them.

I trust that everyone who reads my blog’s will provide some validation to any person who they want to re-heal a relationship with.

My five Star Validations (one for each of you)

1. Stedman – I admire the dedication and effort you take on your appearance

2. Delroy – The melodies that you provided when producing the music inspired a generation of young people to dance

3. Denise – Your performance in the new west end musical – Thriller is a combination of your hard work, dedication to song writing and talent

4. Doris – As a choreographer you brought the medium of dance to a whole generation and inspired many with your innovative movements.

5. Lorraine – As the spokes person of the group you were the public voice and your new career as a writer will carry your voice for generations to come.

So although even this still amuses me to this day my behaviour still does not make me feel good about myself. These are two different states.

I have released the negative feeling that was experienced but to write the above validations has drawn the line underneath and can now move on.

There is so much to apologise for in life but one of my affirmation is “Scott, just don’t beat yourself up about stuff” the best way to apologise is to live my life better each day and create more positivism.

The link, for the Five Star Validation Facebook group is below. So invite your friends, as would love to read about your validations.

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=59927528228&ref=mf

I did promise a lighter posting today so hope you enjoyed this short but hopefully powerful blog.

Releasing negative emotions is something that is of primary interest to me and two methods I have used are;

Sedona Method – click link http://www.sedona.com/html/What-Is-the-Sedona-Method.aspx

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique – click link http://www.emofree.com/

Hope the above works out for you, there is lots of free materials you can get on emotional release. Let me know how you get on and please leave feedback on the blog.

“Always turn a negative situation into a positive situation”. - Michael Jordan