Comfort

“Just because you look good don’t mean you feel good” – Elvis Presley

I write this post this evening, wearing Elvis glasses and a drinking a tall glass of Gin & Tonic.

Comfort is a word which could be interpreted differently, by every person alive. The interpretation is not even a slight variance on its synonym, people view on comfort can be a totally dichotomy.

So we must always be tolerant.

My own experience of comfort is cooking myself cheese on toast (expensive mature cheddar) with some rashers of smoked bacon on top and them smothered with hot baked beans. Naturally white pepper is shaken all over the burnt orange haricots. All this is served with a hot sweet tea.

My seat on the sofa is cleared and before sitting down undo a couple of buttons from my jeans and let it all hang out, I then proceed to eat this from a tray sat on my lap, whilst watching generic football/other sports/action films or program on cars.

This is my comfort position and every one of you will have there own, and would love to hear them as will use them (credited) in my new book so email scotteverest@btinternet.com.

When we identify our own definition of comfort, the state of being will bring us to a place that we wish we could be all the time. Our own personal Narnia, with the subconscious mind fetching us out of our slump like Mr Tumnus, cloven hoofed along to our inner adventures.

However comfort is something that we need to experience more of, how special would our lives be if we could achieve complete comfort of the mind within 5 seconds of a Negative thought entering it?

I am not claiming this as an original idea and this exercise is adapted from the teachings of Bob Proctor and Michael Neill, although not my delivery of it he he he………….

When a negative thought enters into your mind a bad mood would ensue, as we are annoyed or frustrated that it got there, and you pre determine the rest of the day because of it.

I am now going to tell you about a new scientific two-step method that was developed by NISA (corner shops) and all the ancient Ninja Monk’s of Lidl’s, it is called the “Tribbiani” method. The method is to greet the negative thought and acknowledge it like an old friend or someone who you desire to be close to in an intimate fashion. This is done by reciting the powerful mantra or affirmation “How you Dooooing!”

I do jest, but the reason is of course to acknowledge these thoughts, a familiar blast from the past who you know will one day come. This method is meant too help you face your fears.

I recall reading about people who have had horrific personal stories and when suicidal thoughts enter into there mind learn to change that thought around, by a similar method.

The “how you doing” method is something that I have used for years, and all those who know me well, have all caught me smiling and giggling at a most inopportune moment. I have laughed in court, at a funeral and mostly every time an authority figure challenges me, or put simply, at times of stress. I have driven family, friends and ex partners mad. (I am happy, get over it!)

The main reason for the above is the second step, and that is to change the negative thought after you have greeted it with a new positive thought.

I used to do this by thinking of something humorously insulting about the person challenging me or changing the situation that has a painful outcome for that person. This although changed my mood did not put me in a state of comfort.

The new second stage is to change the negative thought to a happy thought, and to be corny is to create “your happy place”. (These days my outlook is rather to be corny and happy than cool and miserable)

Your happy place is something that can change but a powerful enough emotion to put a smile across your face and increase your heart rate a little faster.


This is best achieved by having a trigger; with mine being a picture of my cheeky daughter in a bath which is saved on the screen on my phone for quick access.

The thought that is generated is watching my daughter eating, which as a hunter gatherer male is my primeval conditioning, and feeding my young is comfort to me.

So find your happy place, get a trigger and every time a negative thought pops into your mind, just greet it say hello ask “how’s it doing!” then let that happy thought enter in.

The word comfort as explained from the Oxford English Dictionary is as follows;

Comfort
• Noun 1 a state of physical ease and freedom from pain or constraint. 2 (comforts) things that contribute to comfort. 3 consolation for grief or anxiety.
• Verb cause to feel less unhappy; console.

This blog is a tribute to the word comfort both as a noun and a verb and its derivative “comforting” but my research did bring me back to its Latin origin “Confortare” this literal translation means to “strengthen”

So achieving the state of comfort is to strengthen, so if it makes you happy and puts you in a good place then carry on doing it and it does not matter what anyone says this is YOU.

My original quote from Elvis “Just because you look good don’t mean you feel good” was made around the same time as he also quoted that he enjoyed sitting on his porch in Graceland and thinking back about all the good times.

I just hope that he took the time when those good times were there, that he enjoyed moments of comfort.

Life is now, get comfortable and enjoy it, it will make you stronger!

“ya'll betta check yo'self before you whack yo'self, cos negative thoughts are bad fo ya'll health"

Next blog; Silence and my new experiment