"Approach both love and cooking, with reckless abandonment" - Dalai Llamha
"I am not going to tell you how to love or be loved, as you get a different genie every time that lantern is rubbed " - Scroobious Pip
Love.......................A couple of days ago my daughter Lilith, took her first steps, this overjoyed me and clapped her achievement whooping uncontrollably, she didn't understand but was happy about the validation and she thought it was due to her previously attacking the television, so she did it again!
That is a memory that will validate my unconditional love for my daughter, a love we all have inside us.
Now to explain love, the love above is a combination of Heart + Soul x Commitment = Unconditional Love. This never needs explaining and is just is as my belief in my daughter is without fear or question.
I do want to talk about is the other Love or the equation of Heart + Soul + Body x Commitment = Love.
Now although this is being approached by using the Einstein method of explanation, it is all my thoughts and you can take it or leave it, laugh at it or just read it!
Heart
A powerful muscle favouring the left side of the chest that pumps blood around your body, that blood is oxygenated from the gaseous exchange that takes place from breathing (controlled via Co2). The blood is carried away from the heart by arteries and they flow back via Veins.
This organ has nothing to do with love but off course when love is lost can be the organ that fails as its the supposed life force.
In this instance the Heart will be the metaphor for the one thing that everyone alive does have, so everyone who has a heart has the ability to love. It is the building block, the foundation that we all build upon. No Heart = No life.
Soul
I have read that several years ago that when a person died a physician weighed a body before and after death to calculate the weight of the Human Soul. I understand the concept that energy cannot be created and destroyed it is and always will be, and that quantum physics has explained this fact. (Dr Fred Alan Wolf for additional reading)
The soul or lets just for kicks call this spirit, I believe that this is what we call DESIRE, the soul could be your moral compass that guides you. I also know that we CHOOSE our behaviour so the soul must be the MIND so lets for arguments sake call the soul Spirit + Desire + Mind = Soul.
The soul is incomplete and is always looking for stimulation or to find its match or some cases its direct opposite.
The direct opposite although can be attracted when the desire and Mind does not love itself. WHAT!!! I am saying now that the Soul is responsible for loving you, YOU have to love YOU.
(You have to forgive yourself, so you can fall in love, get on with your life and be free)
This is what your soul is for, its purpose its primary objective. Once it has achieved its primary objective then it can move towards its secondary objective which is searching for its mate, its likeness the last piece of the puzzle.
Souls are magnetic and once two are together they magnet become more powerful.
Body
We all have carnal desires, the need to pro-create is our most basic instinct especially with the male half of the species and the desires of the body will make any man spin a line they mean or don't mean with only the vision of capturing that body.
This is not just limited to the male species, despite propaganda. Lets just say that when cave woman was walking past cave mans nice new cave, was she surprised that she got banged over the head with a club?
I heard a fact the other day that in the balance of life with all species that the Female is more likely than not be the aggressor. I think evolution is favouring that fact.
The body is a vital part of the love equation as it the vessel which maintains the soul, it increases desire it keeps the mate from not leaving and has its primary objective to maintain a life long monogamous relationship.
Commitment
Does this matter? of course as the Heart is the building block the desire to be with that person and the validation of the need for the body can only be held together and circled by commitment. Every civilization ever recorded has a commitment between a Man and a Woman, man and a man and woman and a woman.
The ring does symbolise the commitment and the love from the Heart + Body + Soul. The ring is a symbol and even when "Marriage" is not carried out a symbol of commitment has always been exchanged.
So why does it go so wrong for so many people?
Lets dismiss the heart as that is a constant and start looking at the soul.
Love has forever been lost mainly due to just not being able to communicate, allow me to use a great metaphor. Have you seen the comedy film "The Mystery Men"? well there a character in the film who has a superpower. His power is the invisible man, there is a catch though as he can only become invisible if no one looks at him. Think about that for a moment.
You can have all these thoughts in your head but without communicating them how can you attract your soul mate? Thoughts of course control your actions (Mike Dooley "thoughts become things!".
In my experience this is how I lost 50% of woman in my life, although this will be explained more later.
Next explanation as to how it goes wrong is because of your thoughts, and will start by explaining this as over thinking!
There is visualisation and there is over thinking, the law of attraction teaches you that you should ASK, BELIEVE and RECEIVE. Over thinking causes you to question everything and could lead to what is known as jealousy.
You partner kisses you goodbye as they leave for work, this one day they are in a rush and shout goodbye as they fight to get to work on time. There are some of you who will take this as a sign "are they mad at me?" "what have I done?" "is this relationship breaking down?" "Are they gonna to leave me?" or "They have been seeing a lot of that person from work?" "who was that on the phone?". Sounds familiar..............................
Lets just say that over thinking leads to more break ups, the jealously, the paranoia, the low self esteem and guess what!!!! you attract more of it?
I will admit it, on occasion I have been jealous and my imagination painted a sordid, in detail, blow by blow, paranoid fantasy that of course resulted in a confrontation and the end of the relationship. There is many personal experiences that you all have had with similar or probably more extreme outcomes.
Over thinking is the direct opposite of the Belief side of the Law of Attraction, you could even call it faith or the commonly known noun, Trust.
This is the one thing that will let you grow is belief but trust in your beliefs. Your instincts your natural ability to love, procreate and be abundant.
So lets talk about the body, there is one thing that I know for sure and from experience has made me and countless men, most commonly known as bastards do what they do.
This statement is from The Karma Sutra and Vatsyayana says "men are apt to despise things that are too easily acquired"
To build love you need Heart, the soul has to have time and if you move straight to pleasures of the body then natural reaction with be for the other person to be despised. This is due to mans primal instinct to find a suitable mate and due to being weak in Mind (soul) he over thinks and believes that the female will do this with everyone she meets so his final conclusion is to not allow any further connection.
I think that alcohol, which has been imbibed since the dawn of time has reduced clarity of thought at anytime desires of the body or position of the moon stir our natural inclination towards pro-creation.
I do have a theory as to why love also is not found and we need to go back to my Darwin and The Theory of Evolution & Natural Selection.
The above is something that we probably do not have awareness of and the universe is showing us that maybe this is not the life partner for us.
I will give you my first example, and this is the most common way love is lost with the young and maybe not so young.
Close you eyes...err no open them up sorry, wait for the audio version of this blog. Just imagine the metaphor that two people start as two seeds and grow into shoots, they share roots, share nutrients and rely on each other to survive they need each other and feel each other needs and the soul confirms this need against the foundation of the heart.
There is a time when the shoots bloom and requires something else to survive, but flowers grow up as one and they find there own route to the sun and that's exactly what they have done, they have grown up separately too.
This however hard it is to understand and however painful it is to hear it is merely evolution, your souls just grow apart, you are not one any longer and together you are not strong.
However deep the above is there is just the idea that some people are not suited too each other and this is the whole purpose of the equation as the Universe it about balance and true love cannot have no opposites and is the merging of two beings into one.
Heart + Soul + Body = Commitment.
Of course there are countless examples when I am wrong, my favourite is that when people state that we are not married but we don't need to have a piece of paper to show our commitment. That is the most beautiful commitment of all as each others souls have validated that. My point precisely.
There is the question as why people stay in abusive relationships, well there strength will be gained when they have forgiven themselves. The primary function of the soul is self validation and self love.
I placed the Dalai Llamha quote up about reckless abandonment as surely with everything I have said, just go for it anyway!!
Summary
- Love yourself first
- Take it slow and love will grow
- Build desire by denying the flesh (not too long, just long enough)
- Make a commitment
The above is just my first thoughts and meanderings for my second book and would appreciate your feedback.
A lot of my blog has been borrowed from a song called "Look for the Woman" which if you want to hear click this link. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yqnKbdqjh2I
This week I will bring you all up to date with my journey.
Future Blogs will include subjects such as; Social Conditioning, Religion V's Faith and the topic of my first book "The Fear Ceremony"
Love, peace and hair grease! xxxxxxxx
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